This post is not one of my stories, but please enjoy it regardless 😉
It was my first stint at online dating and I was pretty skeptical. It took me a long time to warm up to the idea of meeting someone online, but it did seem like an effective tool to meet people you wouldn’t regularly meet in day-to-day life.
So I thought, “Screw it”, and downloaded Tinder. Probably the wrong app, I know. No easing into things there! But EVERYONE is on Tinder, so I thought the odds of meeting someone on that would be better than the wasteland of nothingness I was currently experiencing. #nodates
I think it was the third date I had secured through Tinder, so I was becoming a “pro” first-dater. I arranged to meet Seth after a Sunday ladies luncheon where the theme happened to be ‘dress in white’. I messaged him around midday letting him know I would be finishing up at the lunch at 4pm, asking where we were going, what time etc. It wasn’t until quarter to 4 that I heard back from him, as I was leaving, suggesting a bar in the city by 5pm. He was already cutting it a bit fine as my friend was giving me a lift and we barely knew where we were going. As we reached her car, it started to rain. He texted me and said, “Oh wait! That bar is closed today, haha”, with no suggestion of an alternative…
I was in the car with my friend not knowing where I was even going. In the end, she had to just drop me on the side of the road at a bus stop because we weren’t randomly going to drive around waiting for his text.
So there I was. At a bus stop. In the rain. Wearing all white. No umbrella. Waiting for this idiot to text me. I was a short walk away from a bus stop that goes straight to my home, but I said to myself, “No, don’t be a bitch. Just go on the date”. Who knows, I might even have fun! Right?
Finally he texted.
Him: “How about a walk into the rocks if you’re up for a bit of an adventure?”
My anger was slowly rising.
Me: “Doesn’t sound ideal, I’m wearing all white and I don’t have an umbrella.”
Him: “All white! That’s an interesting choice.”
Me: “It wasn’t a choice it was a theme. Where are we going?”
I wasn’t sure if he could tell I was pissed off but he suggested another bar, which he didn’t even know the name of. I was 4 steps away from a train station that would take me right there so I agreed and made my way over.
I’d never had any pre-date nerves, and this one was no different. It was only different in the sense that I was mildly enraged at the wild goose chase I had unwillingly embarked upon. Already from this guy’s profile I knew I wasn’t really going to be into it, i.e., the first word on his bio was “dancer”.
I had such a hard time swiping right for anyone. I found the whole process extremely vapid, and I generally don’t find someone attractive for their looks alone. Another reason why Tinder is not the app for me. His profile went on to say he was into acting, practices massage therapy, and “Girls to the left, ladies to the right”, which I’ll admit, did make me lol, so I swiped right after much internal debate.
I got to the bar and he was already there. Much to my surprise he was better looking than his pictures, but I still wasn’t into it. I made a remark about the weather being “fucked” (but really I’m talking about him), and went to the bar to get myself a drink as he already had one. One gin and tonic, and we’re off.
After talking for a bit about complete nothing, I asked him how his Tinder was going as I had no attraction to him whatsoever, and couldn’t care less about his interactions with other females. And for what he told me, I’m glad I went on this date, because the story he told was OUTRAGEOUS.
His first Tinder date took place in Perth, where he arranged to pick up his date as she wasn’t familiar with the bar he suggested. If you did this in Sydney I’m pretty sure you’d end up raped and/or murdered by week’s end but maybe in Perth it was safe to get into a stranger’s car? Who knows. She was visibly nervous upon entering the vehicle and he could see that something wasn’t quite right, so he asked if she was OK. She said she was fine. He started driving, and as he did the doors locked automatically (fancy car) and she freaked out. He said, “Everything’s OK! That’s automatic! We don’t have to go on this date if you don’t want to.” She assured him that she was OK, and they carried on to the bar.
She went on to tell him about her first 3 Tinder dates, and pretty soon it was quite apparent why she had been so nervous. The first one she turned up and her date was in a wheelchair, with no forewarning whatsoever. An obvious shock to anyone, but I understand why he would hide it.
The second date she turned up and he was deaf. They couldn’t even communicate! He could understand her because he could read lips but she couldn’t understand him. I pictured her on the date with a deaf man, sitting at opposite ends of a table, communicating via Tinder message…Lol. It was at this point I mused that she must be lying. No one could have this much bad luck, let alone 2 dates in a row! And he said, “Well she was obviously turning up to our date thinking I was going to have a third arm.” True that.
Then came the third date. The most horrifying of them all. She was talking to a guy, her age, good looking. She went to meet up with him, reached the bar and couldn’t see anyone there that looked like him so she sat down to wait. Within about 10 minutes a man who was in his late 40s approached her at the bar. It turned out he was posing as his son on Tinder! She got up to leave as he pleaded, “Stay for just one drink”, which she rightfully declined.
Honestly. You can’t make that shit up! I was amazed. And horrified. And amazed! How did she make it to the 4th date let alone the 2nd? Wherever that girl is, she needs a trophy for the stress she’s endured.
So there we were on a Sunday, 2 drinks in, conversation dwindling, and with work the next day… I decided to tap out. But, knowing my luck, he was also catching the same train as me, and changing over at my station. Brilliant!
As obligatory ride-or-die train buddies now, we selected the 3-seater. I was by the window and he sat pressed up against me. He had his legs crossed, basically pinning me to the wall with no escape. I did my best not to linger with eye contact much ’cause I could tell it was getting creepy. I really didn’t want to kiss him, and why should I? I shouldn’t have to do something I don’t want to do!
We reached my stop and jumped out. I told him I had a fun time and pretty much ran away.
Safely inside my home I looked at my phone and he had texted me saying he had a great time and that he probably would be deleting tinder soon, but he’d like to take me out again if I was interested. I replied with, “Hey buddy, I’m not sure that there is really a romantic connection for me here but I think that you’re awesome and funny, and seeing as you’re not in a wheelchair, deaf or someone’s dad, I’m sure you won’t have trouble finding a nice lady.” To which he replied, “Yolo,” with a fist bump emoticon. Gotta say, that’s a pretty strange response to an I’m-just-not-that-into-you text, but I’ll take it! He unmatched me after that, and I was glad.
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